You hear things like this in the news all the time:
Woman stays with husband that abuses her.
Woman goes back to spouse that repeatedly cheats on her.
Why is this? Well, there is obviously a bigger issue at hand and it involves, self esteem, self respect and self worth — mainly lack of those things. Why else would we stay with someone who treats us this way? This is NOT normal behavior. Do you hear me? Not normal.
Some of you have been unfortunate enough to find yourself in a bad relationship. Whether the abuse is physical or emotional, it's still abuse and you need to get out. If it's physical, call a family member or a trusted friend or even an agency that specializes in helping women in your situation right away. Do not stick around for another second. You do not deserve rotten treatment.
Even if the treatment is just disrespect, like he is constantly cheating on you or belittling you — you need to get out as well.
These men have problems and these problems are not yours to solve. You need to help yourself — especially if you have children. The matter is urgent.
You must figure out why it is that you are allowing yourself to be treated this way? You must seek help immediately. You do not deserve this type of treatment. You must gain back your self esteem and self worth. You cannot accept this type of behavior. Heal yourself.
Whatever you do — DO NOT REVISIT THE DEVIL. Remember why you left. Just because time has passed and he says he has changed or he buys you something or warms up to you with some kind of sweet talk. Don't do it. The devil has a way of controlling you. Remember the past. Learn from it.
One of my favorite quotes from Oprah — "When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them."
This guy has shown you nothing but heartache and pain. He has shown you exactly who he is. Believe him.
Move forward and do not revisit this devil.