#1 Way to Improve Your Relationship!

So — I was quoted in this article on Bustle. Read it here.

 

Here is my advice:

“Do one nice thing for your partner every day,” Marina Sbrochi, IPPY award-winning author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life tells Bustle. This is not a long, complicated, involved suggestion. “It doesn’t have to be big,” she says. “Make breakfast in bed. A five-minute back rub. Flowers. Saying thank you when your partner does something nice.” The effort may be small, but the dividends are great. “Sit back and watch how your relationship grows,” she says.

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20 Ideas to get YOU Motivated to DATE this Summer!

I was recently on an amazingly cool dating radio show hosted by Suzanne Casamento, founder of Fantasy Dating.

If you don’t know what Fantasy Dating is — I suggest you watch this HILARIOUS video. You won’t be sorry.

 

Here is your list. Check it off, one by one.

1. Join a summer sports league. You know that people come crawling out of the woodwork when the weather gets nice, so take advantage. It’s a two for one. You get a workout in and you have the potential to meet someone.

2. Summer concerts!  You already know someone you meet will like the same music as you — so go ahead, tap someone on the shoulder.  It worked for me — wanna hear my story?

3. Hit the conventions!  Comic-con, ScareFest, get political, get freaky, find something you like and go meet a whole bunch of people who like the same thing. Conversation should be easy.  Superman…so nice to meet you!

4. A little vino would be keeno!  Hit wine country or check out some local vineyards near you. A little liquid courage never hurt anyone. Just don’t over do it.

5. Speaking of drinking — take a trip to Louisville and hit the bourbon trail. While you are there, check out the only underground cave zip lines.

6. Take a cooking class.  Normally, these fill up with women, but…you could meet a girl that knows a guy — or at least fine tune some fab appetizer recipes and see the next tip!

7. Plus ONE cocktail party. Get a group of your best single friends and throw in some acquaintances and have a plus one cocktail party.  Everyone has to bring a single friend.

8. Join a gym — a better body is motivation that lasts. You know you feel good when you look good and are strong. Bonus — you will feel better and exude confidence.

9. Enlist the help of your friends. Gather the troups and let everyone know that you are ready to be hooked up with someone amazing. Sit back and wait for the magic.

10. Tinder, Match, eHarmony, JDate, Christian Mingle — whatever floats your boat. Sign up and start dating!  Everyone is doing it.

11. Plan a solo trip with a singles group. Nothing like diving right in the ocean. You know, one of my good friends met her husband on a photography tour of Italy. They’ve been together 12 years now.

12. Affirmations. I know, stop it Stuart Smalley — but it works. Take some time and find all the best motivational meme’s out there and put one as your phone wallpaper every day. It will boost your confidence and motivate you to be proactive.

13. Meetup Groups — love wine and cheese?  Checkers?  Star gazing?  There is a meetup group for that!  Go check them out — you never know who you might meet!

14. Volunteer – Habitat for Humanity, Pet rescue — whatever floats your boat. You’ll feel great helping others and you’ll most likely meet a new friend and you know when you expand your friend base, you increase your odds of meeting someone else.

15. Double Dog Dare — Dare yourself to say hello to one new person each day. Hello person in the coffee line. Practicing being friendly will open doors for more.

16. Visualize the prize — let yourself daydream on your perfect match. Focus on the qualities you are looking for. Picture yourself and your ideal partner in a life you’d like the live. Imagine it and pretend it’s real. One day, it will be.

17. Trick yourself — what’s your favorite food?  Got it?  Now, you can’t eat that food until you’ve talked to five strangers. Are you hungry yet?  It can’t be just any old person off the street — has to be, someone you’d like to meet.

18. Scare yourself — life is short.  What if it all ended tomorrow?  What would you do differently today?  Or – what if you had 5 years to live?  Would you try harder to find love?  Be less picky? Put yourself out there more.

19. Say goodbye to excuses — the time is now. You aren’t tired.  Get out there. You can sleep when you are dead.

20. Steady sex, a BFF, a standing date, flirting, a lifetime of adventure with the man of your dreams!  This can all be yours — if you GET OUT AND GET MOTIVATED!

 

Don’t Wait for Love

You don’t want to end up like this lady…

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Love yourself first. Do things that get you out and meeting people. Work on your fitness. Do you like to run, walk, play tennis, yoga, swim, cross-fit, pilates, basketball, softball or anything to get you out and moving!

Do you have a bucket list? Dream vacations? Places to go? Well, make a plan to cross one thing off at a time. You don’t need to wait for a partner.

Did you know you might just meet that amazing person while you are checking off your list?

So, get on out there — live life and you will FIND LOVE!

LIVE HAPPY!

I’m always looking for ways to add more positivity and more happiness in my life. Lucky me when I was sent a copy of Live Happy magazine!
The magazine is beautifully laid out with interesting articles that offer new ways at looking a life. It’s filled with inspiration and ideas to live happy.
They touch on everything — health, fitness, nutrition, creativity, and the mind. I love that there were so many take aways and lessons that I was able to put into practice.

The power of positive self talk was especially inspiring. Words matter. It’s real. I know I want to be telling myself good things.

You definitely want to pick up a copy or subscribe online!  You could literally tear out 30 pages and be inspired all month!

Check them out at www.livehappy.com

You can live happy — starting now!!

Why You Shouldn’t Read Between the Lines

Where do I begin?

 

Inferring or reading in between the lines is a dangerous thing to do in any relationship.  It’s how poor communication begins.

 

Another situation where you shouldn’t read between the lines is in life.  Don’t guess or infer and wait for shit to happen for you.  Or self sabotage because you do the same thing.  Take things on face value and if you have a problem, clarify.  Then own it up if you are wrong.

 

The place I experience this the most is my writing for the Huffington Post.  For every article, there is always a handful of people that paraphrase my words, infer meaning, and then bitch about it to the world.  It’s like watching the first half of a movie and telling someone the ending without having seen it.

 

So the next time you want to bitch about something I wrote — bitch about what I actually wrote about…not what you THINK or INFERRED that I wrote about.

 

I can take criticism and I’m fine to agree to disagree with anyone.  You don’t have to like me or my writing and I’m totally cool with that.  But at least don’t like the real me.

Turn it Around!

Ever wake up in a bad mood? Or have you had something irritate you early in the morning and it sets a bad tone for the whole day?

I have a trick!

It’s called — TURN IT AROUND.

Stand up and do a full circle.

Find 5 things to be grateful for.

Find 3 things that are going good today and say them out loud. (it could be, the sun is shining!)

Then seek to find at least 10 more things that rock during the day.

Before you hit 10 — you’ll be in a better mood! PROMISE!

 

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The Law of Attraction

It’s real people.  I’m not late to the party.  I read The Secret years ago and the Power of Positive Thinking years before that.

 

I’ll tell ya something.  This shit is real.  How do I know?  Because I fell away from that super positive mindset last year.  I let politics irritate me, I let the haters of the world get to me, I found myself spending more time talking about things that suck in life rather than the good in life.

 

So you know what I’ve been doing recently?

 

I dropped the news.  It’s the same ole shit, just a different day.  I tune in for the weather and the sports though!

 

I stopped obsessing about problems that I can’t control, nor can I solve.

 

I refuse to engage with negative people about negative things.

 

I’m a problem solver.  Solution based thinking.

 

I look at the GOOD NEWS of the world.  There is a lot of it!  Check out the Good News Network!

 

I am grateful for all the wonderful things that are in my life!  Starting with the breath I am breathing right now!

 

So, I encourage you to take the law of attraction into your life.  Purge those negative thoughts.  Be grateful for what you have.

 

Most importantly, visualize that wonderful future — because you deserve it!

 

YOU ROCK!What you FEEL NOW, IS what you're going to ATTACT!

Your Life Starts…NOW!

I’ve been guilty of saying things like this far too many times to count.

I’ll do it later.

I’ll do it tomorrow.

I don’t have time for that.

The time isn’t right.

Not right now.

I don’t think it’s possible.

If I only had (fill in the blank here) then I could do it.

 

Excuses, excuses, excuses.

 

Burn the excuses.  You have used them all up.  Your excuse free life starts now.  Take it one day at a time and don’t make an excuse for anything.  Make actions.

 

I’m devoting one hour of my day today to do three things I put off yesterday.  NO more excuses.

 

What are you going to do today?

 

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
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You Are Awesome!

You really are!  Do you believe it?

 

Have you been told you aren’t awesome?  Have there been people in your life that put you down?  Tell you that you are worthless or no good?  People that bully you or trick you?  People that just talk down to you?

 

Do you feel bad because of bad things that have happened to you in the past?

 

Do this:  Take a piece of paper and write every horrible thing anyone has ever said to you on it.  Take the awful feelings you feel and put it on paper. 

Now, do this: Rip it to shreds.  These things aren’t true and they don’t apply to you. 

 

Take another piece of paper out and write down three things you love about yourself.  This is the space you want to be in.

 

You are special.  You are not the bad things that have happened to you.  You are here because you are important to someone.  You matter!

 

Everyone is put on this earth with potential to be great.  All you have to do is decide that you are great.  Love yourself.

 

Are you having trouble?  I’d love to help you!  Let me know!